Partially born out of a search for an alternative intelligence as researchers became increasingly frustrated that IQ tests didn't explain important life outcomes, EI initially surfaced in the 1990s and then became more popular in the 2000s with Dr. Daniel Goleman's book.
Now, is "EI" the end-all, be-all of thriving, high-performance, and excellent leadership? No.
The research shows there are some situations or roles where EI matters a lot, and some where it matters less (and may even be detrimental). And the research also shows there are a host of other factors, including IQ, that play a role.
In the area where I work - the human dimension - in sports, business, leadership, and teams…emotions and emotional intelligence matter.
So what is EI?
"The ability to monitor one's own and others' feelings and emotions, to discriminate among them and to use this information to guide one's thinking and actions." -Marc Brackett
Too easy, right?
Challenge yourself to consider these questions:
People who experienced the highest number of stressful events in the last year were most likely to consider their lives meaningful.
So how can stress be good for you?
Well it has to do with how you think about stress. When we believe stress is bad for us, the normal and expected parts of life can start to feel like an imposition, keeping our lives from how they really should be.
When we step back and examine the things in life that cause us the most stress, we may find that in fact they are also the things that bring us the most meaning or are deeply important to us.
Try this for yourself. Make a list of the things that cause you the most stress. Then make a list of your most meaningful roles, relationships, activities, goals, or causes.
How much overlap is there between the two lists? Why are those things important to you? How would you feel if some of those areas of meaning were no longer in your life?
The same experiences that give rise to...
High levels of stress are associated with both distress and well-being
Have you heard that stress is bad for you? Bad for your health? And should be avoided or reduced? Most people have - it's a common belief.
Unfortunately, that is neither the complete nor the most accurate picture. More recent research is showing that stress can actually be good for you. Every time I teach about stress I am reminded how few people know this critical new information.
Even though most people view stress as harmful, higher levels of stress seem to go along with things we want: love, health, and satisfaction with life.
People: "I just wish I was less stressed."
Me: "Are you sure?"
Here's a glimpse of some of the new(ish) science that's not getting enough attention:
Researchers asked more than 125,000 people ages 15+ from 121 countries one question: "did you feel a great deal of stress yesterday?" Then computed an index of national stress.